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Thoughts On Marriage From Denise

on January 28, 2013

I went to a wedding shower for a beautiful bride to be yesterday. You know that you are getting older when you are now going to bridal showers for your friend's daughter. Ugh! Her name is Meredith Wood. Her mom has been a friend and mentor for me over the years. I was asked to share something that I've learned about marriage that I would want Meredith to know, and then share my hope for her as she starts this new part of life I guess they thought since I've been married 20 years, I should be all wise and knowing. haha. It did give me a chance to reflect on the things that I have learned through the years.

1. Be his biggest cheerleader. There are going to be plenty of other people to go up against him. He needs to know that you are in his corner. He needs to know that his "best friend" believes in him. Even when he doesn't make the right choice or slips and falls. His desire is to be adored just as much as I want to be adored by him. Sometimes, it's not that we don't, but in the chaos and busyness of life we sometimes stop letting him know that.

2. Find woman in your life who are 1 or 2 stages ahead of you to be friends with. When you encounter a new season of life that you are unsure of, you are able to ask questions and get some guidance.

3. Keep growing in the Lord. As you grow and he grows the hope would be that Jesus will be the glue when bad seasons come. Because they will come. Marriage is full of twists and turns. You will NEED God to be in the middle of it.

My hope for her and for me is that we won't let our marriages get stagnant. It's so easy to do. When jobs, kids, life gets so routine its easy to just start coasting. My prayer is that we as woman will continue to find ways to connect with our spouse in whatever season of life we are in. Those ways of connecting may have to change, but that we will never stop working at it.

The one last piece of advice was something I forgot to share, but I heard it from Leigh not too long ago. Don't forget to use "manners". It sounds silly but it is true. Please, thank you, I'm sorry, I really appreciate ......... Those are basic manners that we use with others around us all the time, but sometimes with our husband we just start barking orders and forget that they deserve kindness. When other things may not be going right, we can still make an effort just by using basic manners.

Anyway, I don't know if any of this was a good reminder for you today, but it was a good reminder for me so I thought I'd share with you. Have a great day.

Much Love,
Denise