What I Wish For My Daughter
I never thought that what my parents always said would actually be true…"each year goes by faster than the one before". But alas, it is true. Reminds me of a line from an old Anna Nalick song that I loved - "life's like an hourglass glued to the table".
For me, the passage of time really started making itself known in a real way when Caroline started kindergarten. And each year has indeed "gone by faster than the one before." Thanks mom and dad. You're always right.
It makes me think more and more seriously about the things that I hope are true for her life. What I wish for my daughter.
I think most parents first response would be "I just want my kids to be happy and secure." I wouldn't disagree at all. Yet, this is no easy task. In some ways we think we know what will make them happy, and try to "help" them along. However, it's a blurry line sometimes between what we THINK will make them happy, and really just what will make US happy. Pushing them to try new things, to not give up, but sometimes, just letting the chips fall. And it's our call. My call.
So, instead of "I just want my daughter to be happy and secure" - maybe my first wish for her should be "that I don't screw things up for her with too much or not enough of my own agenda." That's a weird wish, but a daily struggle none the less.
Whatever side you err on-pushing too much, or not enough, (because we all err right??) don't forget to always tell them how incredibly awesome they are, beautifully made, and how you can't believe God bless you with them. Because that's just the truth.
My second and honestly only other wish for Caroline is that she would love and serve God each day with more resolve than the day before. That she wouldn't wait until she was middle aged like her mother to begin to see life through "big picture" eyes. Or should I say "God's picture" eyes.
I think this is one thing in life that actually can happen sorta like "osmosis"… the intangible transfer of habits from mother to daughter.
In other words, if she sees me reading God's word enough- she will eventually (and has already) want to read it herself. If she hears me wrestling regarding spiritual concerns to my friends, she will do the same. On a 9 year old level, but wrestling all the same. I could list a thousand examples, but I don't want to sound like I'm living it out around this house anywhere close to perfectly- so I'll stop there. It's just something to strive for- to use everything you can as a lesson to teach them something new and incredible about our Creator. If you are conscious of it- I swear you can find something in just about about everything that happens throughout your day.
It's the most important thing we can teach our kids- some call it the "Golden Rule", but it's really God's rule at the end of the day. To love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength- and our neighbor as ourself. It's surprising how that one commandment can encompass so much. That's why it's the most important I guess.
Treating people with kindness and always giving the benefit of the doubt.
Knowing there is someone and someTHING you need, even more than mom and dad.
Recognizing that everything we have comes from God.
Doing our best with the gifts and talents we have, not to get ahead or be better, but for God's glory.
Being envious of no one, realizing we already have so much more than we need.
and the list goes on….
Every single one of the things I wish for my daughter falls under either the 1st or 2nd part of that commandment- loving God, and her neighbor as herself…(She has the neighbor part down, at least in the literal sense. I'm pretty sure she loves our actual neighbors as much as herself. So that's a start…)
Small commandment. Huge responsibility.
I read this post in it's entirety to Caroline before I sent it in to be put on our website. I explained to her that someone at our record company had given me the title "What I Wish for My Daughter", and asked me to use that as a starting point for a blog entry.
I only stopped once, to ask her if she knew what "resolve" meant. She said "Yes. Courage."
And in so many ways that's true. You can know something in your heart, but not have the courage to carry it out.
So maybe that's my last wish for my daughter - courage to be who she knows she should.
This week the girls got to spend some time talking with LA Dodgers pitcher Clayton Kershaw and his wife Ellen about their new book "Arise," as well as the couple's heart for their charity work.
Denise walked the pair through their story of how "Hope's Home," the orphanage in Zambia the couple sponsors, and "Kershaw's Challenge," the donation plan the two set up for Clayton's strikeouts each season, got started.
Check out www.kershawschallenge.com and listen to the clip from the show - then share with us some of your thoughts!
Well I must admit that I totally forgot about doing my blog for today until we were walking out the door to go to the movie. I write to you now during the previews of Madagascar 3. :0). Such commitment!!
This weekend my in-laws are visiting from Michigan along with Caroline's cousin Cole. They have so much fun playing together- they are very close in age and she has been really excited about his visit. Here is a pic of Caroline and Cole with Grandpa Phil.
In other news, Bella is mad at me b/c she had to get her yearly exams and shots. She was poked and prodded, but a good patient I'm told. Doesn't she looked a little ticked?!
Sorry this is so short today-
I hope y'all have a great weekend!!
This past weekend, the girls discussed texting while walking or driving. Shelley and Denise confessed to doing it sometimes but felt it was still a rude thing to do. There's potentially a fine for doing so now!
You've probably experienced this, whether it be someone else or even yourself, so listen to the clip from the show, then share your thoughts!
I'm writing this while sitting in a small Mexican food Restaurant in Jefferson city. I brought Spence here for a TN All Star football game. They practice at Carson Newman Univ. it reminds me a little of Ouachita Baptist where Shelley and I went to College. Once you drop off your son they do their own thing. Spence has been thinking about this game for 2 months. They get to play in Louisville, ky on Sat. It's TN vs KY. I can't stand not knowing what's happening at practice, so I'm staying til tonight's full pad practice. I have no where to go all afternoon, so I came in here to eat and get out of the heat. I guess my next stop will be Walmart and Big Lots:).
This is the job of a Sports Mom and i wouldn't change it for anything. I will head back tonight.
Last night Spence and I hung in our hotel room and watched the Thunder vs Heat. What an intense game! Thunder fans are awesome and the players are even better. It's going to be quite a series I think.
Well that's what I'm doing today. Maybe I'll see if there is a movie theater around here. Have a great day Denise